Baby in Berlin

I had the great pleasure and privilege to interview Gem Kocher (previously Annie) for this episode.

Gem Kocher is a white non-binary queer feminist doula based in Berlin, Germany. Birth work called them shortly after graduating from Brown University in 2014, and they’ve been a full-time birth and postpartum doula since, caring for families in English & German. In 2020, Gem began offering gender transition doula care.

Gem’s mission as a doula is to create meaningful change in people’s lives through inclusion, information liberation, and grassroots care work. Gem is on Earth to hold space for a more radical, more just, more healed world to be born. 

We discuss many topics with Gem, our goal was to answer a lot of the initial questions that parents and people in general have about doulas. We wanted to make it a go-to resource for everyone who just heard about doulas and wondered whether it was something they wanted for their families.

Here is a sample of the questions we answer in this episode:

What is a doula?

What is the difference between a doula and a midwife?

How are doulas viewed in general and in particular by the medical staff in Germany? How well accepted is it to bring a doula to a birth in Germany?

Does it make sens to have a doula if the partner is present?

What is the role of a doula at birth with regards to advocating for the parents vs translating?

Is a doula only for natural births?

What has been Gem’s experience of accompanying birthing mothers during Covid in Germany? How can a birth doula support the parents with the current restrictions?

How can I find a doula? When should I look for a doula? How much does a doula cost in Germany? are also questions we cover.

I really hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did, it covers so much ground and will be such a useful resource for the international families in Germany. Gem has also such a calming voice, pop your earphones on and enjoy!

You can find Gem here:

Some resources Gem shared (clickable links below)

Evidence on doulas

Facebook group to find a midwife in Berlin

Chiropractor Florence Joulian

List of the EPISODES

Elodie from Baby in Berlin on the phone
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